Like many of you, I am fortunate to have my horses in my life. But having horses often means giving up time for other parts of my life, such as going out with friends, cleaning the house (oh darn) or other hobbies. Horse people have a saying: if your house is clean, you’re not spending enough time in the barn.
I was fortunate enough to grow up on a small hobby farm with horses. My parent’s told me that if I wanted to have horses as a ‘grown up’ that I needed good grades in school, to get through college and get a good job. Horses are not exactly a low investment hobby, so I followed their advice. Now that I have the degree, career and horses, time seems to be the biggest constraint.
There is a certain amount of irony to this; the job that pays for the horses is the biggest thing that keeps me from spending time with them. I don’t believe that I am alone; countless other professionals or college students must have this same struggle.
During the week, I get home after a long commute (I live out in the country so my horses can be with me), feed the horses, clean the barn and check fences. If anything has been broken, it gets fixed. Add in time to feed and care for the dogs, myself and it’s already late in the evening, nearly time to go to bed just to get up early for the long commute to work the next morning.
My solution so far has been to ‘schedule’ my saddle time. Weather permitting I designate an evening during the week after work to be ‘horse night’. If I’m too tired from work, I will only do grooming or ground work. So instead of cleaning the house, walking the dog or weeding the garden, the horses get their much deserved attention. This is a sacrifice I’m willing to make; I’m sure the weeds will be there tomorrow.
What do you do to strike the balance in your life?